As we walk around campus, there is one thing that is sure to be talked about: Senior Ball. Who is going with who, and most importantly, how were you asked.
DON'T GET MAD YET MCNAMAR... THIS STORY REALLY DOES HAVE A POINT AND ISN'T ONE OF THOSE "CAN YOU BELIEVE WE'RE ALMOST DONE STORIES."
I myself have wondered why how you are asked to a dance is almost as important as getting asked at all. What ever happened to "will you go to______ with me?" I recently read an article online that discusses this issue. It said that asking someone to be your date has become such a production of the years that even before the big night the boys are blowing their money. It has turned into a competition between the boys, who can be the most creative when popping their question. And it has brought out bragging right among the girls "Well, MY boyfriend did this to ask me."
"Clearly, though, it is a big thing. A chat with her girlfriends, a phone call or a quick conversation by the lockers between classes won't do anymore. That's so 2005. In 2006, the request has to be painted on a giant sign parked in front of her house or accompanied by 50 red candles, hundreds of Hershey Kisses and an original poem. Why? For the same reason guys go to prom: because girls want it that way."
"Trouble was, he didn't have a clue how to impress her."
"I wish my boyfriend had done that."
"Lahr is the kind of guy who is terrified by the idea talking to a girl on the phone. "I'll be in my room, staring at a name on my cellphone, wondering whether I should call. The whole social thing is totally nerve-wracking," he says."
"The prom invite had him rattled big-time."
I think girls have become to needy, to many of us expect something extraodinary. As you can see from the quotes from the story, asking a girl to prom (or Senior Ball in our case) has become very stressful for the guys. I think this question should go back to something simpler. Save the extravagance for when you get engaged.
I'm not going to lie, my own boyfriend took a lot of time planning and asked me in a very cute way. However, I would have been fine if he had just said "Will you go with me?" I don't expect him do spend great deals of money on me, but when he does take the time to plan somethig special, I am sure to let him know that I appreciate it.
Overall, I think that girls shouldn't expect to be asked in an amazing way, and they shouldn't put pressure on the guys. We should all just be happy that we have been asked, and if they do go above and beyond, be sure to let them know how much you appreciate the efforts that they have made to make this a special event for us.
If you'd like to read the article, go to http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12863585/
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It was just yesterday that I was talking to a few of my friends about this same subject. We were talking about how guys plan out these extravagant plans and how they spend so much time, energy, and money when in reality they should just be able to ask without all the extras. It's really too bad so many people think they need these elaborate plans. It's truly the beauty of simplicity that's the best.
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